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Prom Guide To...
How to Pop the Question

I found this great article by Cary Wun, a Digital High Freelancer. She talks about the myths of asking someone to the prom and how it has changed. You know, it used to be only guys that asked girls, and now it's a two-way street. And that's good. I wish it was that way when I went to school, because sure enough there was this really great looking guy in my geometry class, but he was too shy to ask anyone, much less me! I would have grabbed him up in a heartbeat!

Anyway, whether it's a guy or a girl popping the question, it's an anxiety producing event. No matter how many times you've done it. Rejection is the worst thing that can happen to a person. That ever-present possibility of the word "no" being used as a response makes even the most secure person titter.

Wun suggests several ways to ask someone to the prom. And most likely the most romantic ideas are the most popular (with the girls, at least), like presenting a bouquet of a dozen roses or less with the verbal invite. She tells the story of what I would call one very romantic high school suitor who had an intricate plan for asking his girlfriend to the prom. "He devised a way to get his girlfriend's first period teacher to lock the class door, make her arrive five minutes late to class, then surprise her by blindfolding her and leading around campus, and finally ending with a quick breakfast [in a] picnic setting."

However, unlike the Don Juan above, you have to consider who you are asking, the stage of your relationship, what you see in the future and more before you go off and send a dozen roses with a friendship ring and a ticket to the prom.

Some things never change. For instance…

Don't ask over the phone, by e-mail or through a conduit. This is impersonal and it makes it so easy, so easy, to say, "Nope, don't think so."

If you are asking, try your best to be romantic. If you are on the other end and the question and ambiance isn't romantic enough, do both of you a favor and make the best of it.

Be honest, but not too honest. If you can't go because you have another date, because the idea of going with the person who's asking is unbearable or because you have to wash your hair, let the person asking down lightly. As I mentioned previously, rejection isn't easy to handle.

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And remember, it's only the prom!
The Party Girl and Party411!

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