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Etiquette Queen
Questions of Manners
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Faye asked:
Is it tacky for a couple to throw their own 25th wedding anniversary party or should this be the part of the children?
The Etiquette Queen says:
It would only be tacky if you threw the party and asked for gifts. You could take the occasion to celebrate 25 years of happiness and ask others to share this with you. If the kids want to have it for you, great! But don't stand on ceremony. Enjoy and congrats.
E.M. asked:
= Is it proper to: 1) call to ask whether you have sent a birthday gift,
because it hasn't arrived? and 2) once it does, remind the sender that they
sent the same birthday card years earlier?
The Etiquette Queen says:
No to both questions. For #1, you'll either get it or not. #2 - what good
would that do except stir up bad feelings.
Elsy asked:
I just had a baby, and have gotten a lot of flowers, cards, and gifts. My
question is: Do I send out thank you cards to everyone who sent good wishes,
including, just a card, just flowers. Will a birth announcement suffice, or is
it more proper to thank everyone formally with a note? Also, what type of
thank you is suitable for the Dr who delivered your baby? A gift, a birth
announcement??
The Etiquette Queen says:
You need only send written thank yours for actual gifts such as baby stuff
and flowers. Cards can be a verbal thank you the next time you talk to the
person. As for the doctor who delivered the baby, a simple note would suffice.
A birth announcement is not a thank you, just a notice of birth.
Mary asked:
Looking for the proper way to address a widow: i.e. Mrs. John Doe or
Mrs.
Jane Doe? Or does it make a difference? Thank you
The Etiquette Queen says:
It only makes a difference to the widow. Ask her how she would like to be
addressed. It differs from person to person.
Nancy asked:
What is the protocol for adding crackers to soup -- both at home and in
restaurants?
The Etiquette Queen says:
You open the package, crumble the crackers quietly and neatly and put them
in the soup. If it's a dressy or formal occasion, just nibble them along with
the soup.
Nils asked:
What is the proper etiquette at a dinner party,
restaurant or just
visiting, when you have a runny nose due to remnants of a cold or allergies.
Should you run to the washroom every five minutes?
The Etiquette Queen says:
Carry a handkerchief or tissues and blow your nose discretely and put the
used cloth in a pocket. If using tissues, once in a while, go to the bathroom
and throw away the used ones and resupply. If you are blowing a few times a
minute, maybe you should be home.
Hilda asked:
When someone enters a room where there are other people, Who greets
first, the one coming in or the people in the room?
The Etiquette Queen says:
Usually the younger one greets the older one first out of respect to age.
But there is no rule about the coming or the already there.
Vince asked:
What is the reason for "eating with your mouth closed?"
The Etiquette Queen says:
Because it's disgusting to see people's food when it's in their mouth being
eaten.
Maggie asked:
Do you always have to respond to an RSVP even if don't plan on going?
The Etiquette Queen says:
That's the point of RSVP. You respond whether you are going or not. It
would be rude not to do so.
Rolland asked:
I need to know who I can call for a course or little one night training on
etiquette for a University Student organization I work for...thank you...
The Etiquette Queen says:
I assume you have checked with the university to see if any of the staff
could help. See if there is a Junior League in your area or a columnist for
the local paper who can recommend someone.
Todd asked:
I'm a restaurant manager at a fine dining restaurant in Palm Harbor, Fla.
My question is what is the proper way to serve a guest, serve from the left
and clear from the right, or vice versa. Or are they both wrong, and if so
what is proper? Thank you for your help.
The Etiquette Queen says:
Serve from the left and clear from the right, always.
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