Posted by g on January 08, 2001 at 10:56:34:

I had posted several messages on the board recently and I am thankful for all the responses. (My mother-in-law passed away, my father-in-law had a serious stroke.) Your help, and condolences, were very much appreciated.

I was hoping to just do a kiddush / luncheon at the temple after my son's barmitzvah service, but I am unable to get out of my contract with the Hotel and the DJ, without being obligated to 75% of the contracted amounts.

We still need though to keep things subdued. How??

We've eliminated the cocktail hour, and we'll replace the candlelighting ceremony with a variation that will not have the room in tears. Since it was my son's Jewish grandfather who had the stroke, we may eliminate the challah blessing and just have a toast instead (???). We'll have it be a brunch buffet, because this is my son's favorite.

Any ideas on how to keep things respectful of the family loss, and appropriate ( considering we still have a DJ) would be greatly appreciated. Perhaps we should center around a theme of tzedakah ... Also, I am very confused as to how the order of events should be.

Again, any advice or ideas would be great!

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• Re: subdued celebration - recent death in family Zozzie and Heidi, Innovative Party Planners 01/10/01 (0)
• Re: subdued celebration - recent death in family Brenda 01/08/01 (0)

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